How performance anxiety can turn sex into a test—and how shifting toward connection, pleasure, and presence can help.
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Men’s Health · Sex & Intimacy
Male Sexual Performance Anxiety: How It Disrupts Erotic Pleasure, Connection, and Fun
How performance anxiety can turn sex into a test—and how shifting toward connection, pleasure, and presence can help.
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Is This OCD, or Do I Really Feel This Way?
When the mind keeps demanding a definitive answer, a different relationship with uncertainty can help.
Why Trying to Get Rid of OCD Thoughts Can Make Them Stronger
What happens when the struggle with an intrusive thought becomes more consuming than the thought itself.
The Problems in Solving Problems
When analysis helps, when it becomes another form of avoidance, and how to recognize the difference.
OCD as a Teacher
What becomes possible when OCD is approached as a difficult teacher rather than an enemy to defeat.
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